Last time I got into an argument with someone I got a bit angry and i use some harsh words against her.The other person became angrier and defended herself again with harsh words and so the cycle goes on.When it get to the point that i had enough i just started speaking more calmly.The other person mimic my behavior and she also calmed down. That’s when I remembered this verse. Proverbs 15:1
Sometimes we tend to be impulsive while arguing.But be aware that words hurts more than sticks and stones.Without knowing you are hurting a loved one with your harsh words.Many times when people are arguing, it can end really bad.Relationships are over and friendships are broken.That’s why I want to share some advice with you on:
How to avoid arguing.
How to avoid arguing:
- First thing you need to do is calm yourself,take a deep breath and count till 10.
- Ask your self this questions:Why are they so upset?Is it my fault? What can I do to resolve this problem?
Even if it’s not your fault start with apologigizing.This will calm the other person down and they will also mimic your behaivoir.
I’m mean actively listen with not only your ears but also with your body language.
Put the phone down pay attention and show interest in what the other person has to say.
Try to find out why they are upset.This will be easy by asking relevant questions.
Resolve the issue:
If you can’t find a way to stop arguing.If it’s not a private matter ask the other person if it’s ok for you to ask a neutral person to step in and help you both resolve the issue.
Apologize and apologize again.Apologizing never hurts right?
The next time you get into an argument,remember this verse and turn away wrath.